It's crucial to consistently evaluate how we do ministry. What is working well for us? What needs to change? What are we holding onto that really is not working?
In my last piece I suggested that youth ministry is like that awkward middle schooler in your student group. We are still figuring out who we want to be, and how to make it work. If we aren't careful, we might settle into the wrong habits. Similar to a 7th grader, we need to ask ourselves what we want our life (and ministry) to look like as we mature.
Here are five more youth ministry fixtures that I believe we should not allow to settle. If you missed it, be sure to read the first Five Fixtures That Need To Die.
#6 Don't Settle for Program-Based Ministry
Pragmatic thinking has led many ministries to just keep doing it the same way we've always done it. And what is that way? Programs. Kyle Idelman said, "What you win them with is what you win them to." So, what are you winning students with? Is it a big program or event, or is it relationships-with God, leaders, and their peers?
How do you want students to practice their faith long-term? If it's by attending a program, then keep going. But, if you want to train them for a life of faith, then don't let programs be your driving force. Keep programs only when it is truly the best or only option.
#7 Don't Flood Calendars
I remember spending a lot of time at church events when I was a teenager. My parents were happy that I was devoting so much of my time to God, but they didn't get to see me nearly as much.
Are we doing the same thing for students today? Are we flooding their calendars with events and expecting them to show up all the time? Are we supporting time dedicated to homework, hobbies, and time with their families? How are they supposed to spend time with others and seek opportunities to share Jesus, if we have flooded their calendars?
#8 Go Beyond A Youth Service
Most of us would say our goal is to help young people build lifelong faith that impacts those around them. In line with this, major research points to elements other than youth meetings as crucial to forming committed believers among the next generation. These include serving other, small groups, and intergenerational worship.
I'm not saying you have to kill your youth service altogether, but be willing to do it. Instead, spend more time getting young people involved in the main church worship service, serving the community and into small groups with trusted adults. Gathering students together is still important, but feel the freedom to change it up!
#9 Stop Last-Minute Planning
I can't tell you how many times I've logged onto a ministry group online to find a leader asking for same-day game or sermon ideas. We have to be better. Our students and team deserve better.
Train yourself to think at least six months ahead at all times. Flesh out more specifics a month out, and fully plan one week ahead. This will not only leave you room to be more strategic and creative, but it will help you get others involved. Yes, it is important to leave room to make changes when the inevitable curve ball comes your way, but we have to stop winging it.
#10 Don't Neglect Your Own Growth
We got into student ministry out of our love for God and passion to see youth saved. That's great! But, where are you in your own relationship with God? How much time do you focus on improving that first love (Revelation 2:4)? Don't neglect the spiritual disciplines and habits your faith needs to be steadfast. Your flesh is only so strong. You will run out of gas. You need the Holy Spirit's power!
Spend time with God and take your day off (Sabbath) for renewal. Use the "do not disturb" function on your phone more often. Get into a discipleship relationship with a spiritual mentor. Do whatever it takes, because if you want to last in student ministry, you can't forget about yourself and your own relationship with God.
Be The Leader Your Students Need Now
As youth leaders, we are called to lead. Part of leading is making difficult decisions for the benefit of those we lead. Ask God for the courage to step up and make the changes He is calling you to do. If you need encouragement, we are here for you. I've said it before, and it's worth repeating: the future of youth ministry is exciting. LET'S GO!
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Steve Cullum is the Colorado State Coordinator for NNYM. He has been serving in student ministry since 1999. Steve blogs about ministry and hosts the Student Ministry Connection podcast. He also enjoys playing Nintendo, being outdoors, and watching movies.