Ah, vacation.
An elusive concept that sometimes feels more like folklore than fact, especially for those of us in youth ministry. But here's the truth: taking a real break isn't just possible, it's essential.
If Jesus pulled away to rest, why do we treat it like a luxury instead of a necessity?
Here's why you shouldn't feel guilty about switching into vacation mode, and a few practical ways to make sure your time away actually refreshes you, not stresses you out.
1. You're Human (Yes, Really)
Between lock-ins, retreats, and never-ending group texts, it's easy to forget you're not a machine. Burnout isn't a badge of honor, it's a warning light flashing "time to slow down." Time off isn't selfish; it's stewardship. You're caring for your body, your mind, and the longevity of your calling.
2. Set Boundaries, And Keep Them
Before you step away, communicate when (and if) you'll check in. Let your team, students, and parents know what to expect. Clear expectations keep you from getting dragged into "just one quick thing" while you're supposed to be recharging.
3. Delegate Like a Pro
Trust your people. Hand off responsibilities before you leave, and give your team what they need to succeed without you. You might be surprised. Some of them will shine in ways you've never seen before. And that's a win for everyone.
4. Silence the Noise
Yes, even that notification. Turn off your email alerts. Mute your group chats. Delete ministry apps for the week if you have to. The world will keep spinning, and your soul will breathe a little easier with every quiet moment.
5. Don't Chase the Perfect Trip
Your vacation doesn't need to be Instagram-worthy to be worthwhile. Some of the best rest comes from slow mornings, backyard hammocks, or a day of absolutely nothing. Focus less on creating memories for the feed and more on creating space for your heart to settle.
Here's the Bottom Line...
Youth ministry is a marathon, not a sprint. And every marathoner builds in rest days. Guilt-free time off is part of the strategy, not just for your health, but for the good of the ministry you're called to lead.
So go ahead.
Unplug. Rest. Play. Breathe deep.
You'll come back with more clarity, more joy, and more of the you that your students actually need.
Ronald Long has been a youth pastor for nearly two decades. Nothing makes him happier than to watch youth leaders thrive in ministry! As a coach with Standing Stone, he provides free care for leaders in youth ministry.
This article was first published on the DYM blog